Long Distance Relationships (LDRs)
I’ve been in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR) and it was hard work, but I’ve been in situations where I was just minutes away and those were hard work also. I believe if you are the type of person who feels claustrophobic easily maybe LDRs are the way to go, the majority of the time you’ll have your space but every once in a while you can also get that couples time. If you crave constant attention& companionship, then maybe you should stay far away from LDRs because chances are if you’re not married engaged legally bound fully committed to making it work you’ll start seeking these things from someone a little closer to home. I guess what it all boils down to is individual preferences. In the past, I for one have sworn off LDRs but as of late I’ve been thinking that it might not hurt to give them another chance as long as both parties are willing to put in work, and there is a mutual goal that can be reached. The goal I’m referring to is the goal that eventually you both plan on being in the same location. If that goal is not present then I truly believe that that LDR is pointless and a waste of precious time!
Long Distance Relationships (LDRs)…take them or leave them, for them or against them????? I think they could have their advantages and disadvantages, what do you think?
~SimplyPut
Very interesting topic. I think the LDR idea is a great thing. But only for me because I am the type of person that needs “space” and this is usually more difficult in a relationship that is short distance. When your SO is in close proximity and you dont want to see them, this becomes an issue. They start assuming that you are seeing someone else, has lost interest with them, etc. This is not the case, I am simply a person who enjoys companionship yet desire to spend time doing other things sometimes. To spend time with a boyfriend 5 days a week is just too much for me (might as well be married). To see him 2 maybe 3 times a week is just fine with me. I still have to make time for family, friends, and ME. AGAIN, thats just me though, I think its different for each individual person.
I understand that this may take a lot of work on the part of both parties; however, I dont wanna think of my relationship as “work”. I think it should just happen and be good. If thats not the case and we have to put in “work” then maybe its not meant for us to be.
Missintense - September 1, 2009 at 1:40 pm |
@MissIntense: “it should just happen and be good” wouldn’t that be grand! I wish it was like that too
Unfortunately for me it starts that way and always turns into work. Maybe according to your philosophy it was so much work because it just wasn’t meant to be, I never thought of it from that prospective.
SimplyPut - September 1, 2009 at 2:12 pm |
Thanks for your comment Miss Intense! I definitely have done the LDR thing…it was just ok for me. I too need my space. That was really the benefit that came with it. Sometimes being in that type of relationship can open up orpportunities for someone else to slide right on into your partner’s spot…lol…It really just depends on the person and what they ultimately want to get out of a relationship. I wouldn’t do it right now, been there done that, but I’ll never say never
OhSoSavvy - September 1, 2009 at 9:56 pm |