In Relationships: What’s a Deal Breaker?
Ok, we’ve heard it all before. I’d prefer to date a girl that’s this, or I’d like to date a guy that looks like this but if he doesn’t have that particular look it’s not necessarily a deal breaker. Everyone has a preference in what they’d want a potential mate to look like, act like, etc. Realistically speaking one person may not fit all of your criteria so the question is do you take them out of the running or do you pursue things to see how they go? My question is what are your personal deal breakers? If he is unemployed is that a deal breaker? If she can’t cook is that a deal breaker? Don’t hold back we want to know 
A deal breaker for me in a relationship would have to be bad breath! Kissing in my opinion is more than sex for me, so if I can not kiss you that is def going to be a turn off!!! That is def a deal breaker!
LaShonda - August 5, 2009 at 3:15 pm |
Thanks for the comment LaShonda! I have to agree that bad breath is a definite turn off, but that could be fixed. Right? For you it’s a deal breaker so if this guy has all the other qualities that you are looking for you wouldn’t help him with get his breath game right? LOL
SimplyPut - August 5, 2009 at 3:27 pm |
A deal breaker for me is a non-belief in God. How can one not see that we have a Creator and an Advocate in one? Faith is very important and if one doesn’t have it, they are without.
Danielle - August 5, 2009 at 3:48 pm |
Danielle you just hit the nail on the head! That is truly my deal breaker! Dating guys who aren’t christians: been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, and never want to go there again!
SimplyPut - August 5, 2009 at 4:19 pm |
I definitely believe that a relationship built on any foundation other than GOD will SURELY FAIL! I agree with you Danielle, and that is def a deal breaker for me as well…I’m glad you commented!
OhSoSavvy - August 5, 2009 at 7:37 pm |
A deal breaker for me is a woman without a personality. It takes more than just a “pretty” face to catch my attention. A personality is very imperative when I consider a woman as a potential mate because I hate to be bored!
Mr. Postman - August 5, 2009 at 5:22 pm |
Thank you Mr. Postman for a males perspective. I’m sure a lot of ladies will be glad to hear that it takes more than just a “pretty” face
SimplyPut - August 5, 2009 at 6:01 pm |
Yes, I am glad someone added this too. We know that men are physical creatures, but even though a girl is pretty, the personality is essential. Thanks for putting the men on the map with your comment Pham!
OhSoSavvy - August 5, 2009 at 7:39 pm |
I completely agree here. I run into a lot of men who think just because the are attractive they are desireable. NOT!!! You have to have more to bring to the table. I need a man I can converse with, a man with ideas, views, goals, future, etc… I mean being handsome is definately a plus, but I need to be able to do more than just “look at you”
Missintense - September 1, 2009 at 1:49 pm |
@MissIntense….PREACH!!!!!
SimplyPut - September 1, 2009 at 2:16 pm
My deal breaker is a liar, a pessimist, one who doesn’t believe in Jesus Christ and a man without a plan. The problem I often see in myself and others is that we don’t take what we see for face value. We think we can “change” the other person…reality check—IMPOSSIBLE. If someone shows you who they are, believe them!!
Leah - August 10, 2009 at 10:14 pm |
“If someone shows you who they are,believe them!!” Is the best advice ever, I had to learn that the hard way
Thanks for commenting!
SimplyPut - August 10, 2009 at 10:21 pm |
My deal breaker is a lack of integrity. Such a turn off! There’s something about a man that means what he says, lives up to his values and principles, and strives for better while admitting he’s fallen short.
Candice Jones - August 30, 2009 at 1:16 pm |
Amen Candice!!!!!!
SimplyPut - August 31, 2009 at 12:34 pm |