His & Hers
The saying is…there are 3 sides to a story, his story, her story, and the truth…What will your truth be? Open your minds and let’s discuss love & relationships! Your comments are greatly appreciated!
RESPECT vs. TRUST
Relationships as you all know are built on several different things. Many people say communication is key, while others believe that love is all that matters. What about respect and trust? Which one do you think is more important and why? I am interested to see the answers…
~OhSoSavvy
I guess I’ll be 1st to leave a comment, I personally think they go hand and hand. I can’t respect a person I don’t trust and I probably wouldn’t trust a person who I didn’t respect. Leave it to me to straddle the fence
SimplyPut - July 23, 2009 at 11:18 am |
I believe when you have mutual respect first, everything else will fall into place. It’s difficult to misuse or abuse relationships (or anything for that matter) when you set the respect bar WAYYY up there. “I respect this person enough to be honest and transparent with them”….”I respect this person enough to trust them”…”I respect this person enough to consider their feelings and desires”. Whenever making decisions regarding your partner, yourself, and your relationship, placing respect at the cornerstone of your decision will definately shape matters in a light that reflects consideration, positivity, and harmony. The respect factor MUST be recipricol though. And if it’s not, RESPECT yourself enough to leave the unacceptable behavior and relationship by the way side. No matter how it goes, you can lose when you keep respect first.
Candice - August 1, 2009 at 8:23 pm |
Thanks so much for your comment Candice. I definitely agree! And if I had to choose one of those I would choose respect, because of those exact reasons you stated. I believe that the real problem in relationships is lack of respect, both for your partner and yourself. It’s weird how it has become more and more acceptable to sit by and let a man or woman disrespect you, but in those cases (that I can attest to) that is a situation where the respect of self is NOT in the equation.
OhSosavvy - August 3, 2009 at 1:49 pm |
I think that trust and respect are symbiotes of each other, one can’t exist without the other! You can not say to someone, “I respect you so much, but I just don’t trust you”, that makes no sense at all. I feel that as a person’s trust starts to build, you begin to develop respect for whatever it may be. It could be from something as simple as a dishwasher or as complex as a relationship! The problem in most relationships is that there is a lack of respect due to the absence of trust.
I think if there are people out there that are wondering why their relationship is not working in their favor, maybe they should step back and analyze their trust and/or respect for their counterpart…but still, the existance of one depends on the strength and existance of the other, no matter which one you choose to focus on first.
Kamil - August 3, 2009 at 2:09 pm |
Great comment Kamil, I really think you and I are on the same page in that my 1st comment I mentioned that Respect & Trust go hand in hand; I can’t have one without the other. I feel a lot of people don’t see it that way and they are missing one of the key components. Look @ that, a guy that agrees with me. Might be a 1st
SimplyPut - August 3, 2009 at 6:42 pm |